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A Life Without Borders: By sailboat, planes, train, and RV, a funny and inspiring tale of a family’s quest to escape the boundaries of their ordinary life

 

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Customer Reviews on Amazon

5.0 out of 5 stars Awesome September 11, 2013
By Sharon
Format:Paperback
“Ok this book was great I laughed till my sides hurt and cried at the end”
5.0 out of 5 stars A captivating read!, May 28, 2013
I read A Life Without Birders in two days; I just could not put it down! Carla’s stories made me feel like I was on the catamaran right alongside her family. Her accounts of different locations, cultures, and people reignited my desire to travel to new, exotic locations. A Life Without Borders is a captivating adventure tale reminding readers of the importance of family.
5.0 out of 5 stars What an Adventure, July 28, 2013
Carol – 
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This book left me wanting to read more. I truly enjoyed reading about the BeDell’s adventures and the different countries they visited. Through the author’s great sense of humor and art of storytelling, you felt you were right there with them. I applaud their leap of faith in giving up their old life to reconnect as a family and enjoy life’s challenges as a family.

A must read for every parent, it makes you realize how we let everyday life and monetary things get in the way of really being a family and appreciating life.
I hope the author will write another book about returning home and dealing with the everyday challenges that it brings.

You will laugh out loud as you read the inspiring true story of a family who abandoned their crazy, stress-filled days to live a life of adventure.Carla and Dan were living what was supposed to be the American dream—the big house, successful corporate careers, and two young, wonderful children. But it all came at a cost—the constant stress of the weekly morning race to work and school, the tired weekends, a family headed in different directions, the struggle to keep it all together as effortlessly as everyone else seemed to be doing, and the overwhelming fear that the struggle to live this life was costing them a life of happiness.

They knew they had to make a dramatic change, so over the objections of family, friends, and co-workers, that’s what they did—they made a big change.

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How Do You Say “Can I Just Use The Bathroom In Peace?” In Spanish?

Help! I'm Being Attacked By A Parrot!

Help! I’m Being Attacked By A Parrot!

When I was potty training my son, I received a helpful suggestion from a teacher at the Montessori preschool, She asked, “Do you take him into the bathroom with you at home?” Obviously she didn’t have kids. I threw her an incredulous look and replied, “I haven’t been to the bathroom by myself since this child was born.”

No. I take that back. I had dogs before I had my son was born so truly I hadn’t been to the bathroom by myself at home in years. YEARS! You have kids, you have dogs, you have no more bathroom privacy. Until they get older. The kids I mean, not the dogs.  The dogs don’t care.

So during our trip to Peru, my kids were older. I had the bathroom to myself. Or so I thought. Here’s what happened.

From the book A Life Without Borders

…on our way out of the rehabilitation center, I stopped to use the bathroom. While I was minding my own business, doing my business, a large aggressive parrot walked under the stall door and began nipping at my legs and clothes. I screamed. From over the stall door, I could heard my family dissolving into laughter. They saw the parrot follow me into the bathroom and were now enjoying my predicament. 

I tried to shoo the bird away while putting my clothes back on, but I wasn’t successful. The parrot was mean. I couldn’t scare him.

Suddenly a large wooden stick swept under the stall. Through a crack in the door, I saw a robust, older woman, bent over, looking under my door while wildly swinging a thick, wooden stick at the parrot, aggressively trying to get him out. The parrot was unfazed. The more the woman swung the stick, the more aggressive the bird became. That was unpleasant. It appeared these two had tangled before and shared a mutual history of dislike. 

The woman was determined to get the bird, and the bird was equally determined that she wouldn’t. My “savior” was now on her hands and knees, her head under the door, looking up at me. Awkward! As we made eye contact, the parrot, the woman, and me, a thought occurred to me that surely I must be on Candid Camera Peru. If so, I’d better get my clothes on. So while trying to pull up my pants, I had to avoid being bitten by a parrot, avoid being whacked by a large stick, and stop a Peruvian woman from crawling under my bathroom door. It was really a lot to ask, but I was up to the task. The bird, sensing the end was near, wisely ducked into the next stall and headed for the door with the woman right behind him. I emerged a few minutes later, unscathed, but suffering the hysterical laughter of my family. 

 

You can read more about our family adventure, selling it all and traveling the world for four years in A Life Without Borders available here at Amazon.com  http://amzn.to/13Ixl8X   or Barnes and Nobles.

 

 

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Life Is Not A Balancing Act

Life Is Not A Balancing Act

Life is a balancing act. Don’t believe it.

I believe what Josi from The American Momma blog wrote in her post  The Trip That Changed My Mind. Josi talks about her recent attendance at Bloggy Bootcamp in Atlanta. and how life-changing it was. (I attended Bloggy Bootcamp in Charlotte NC last year and it was life-changing.) In her blog post Josi recalled the words of Tiffany Romero who said, “Time with your kids is flying by” and the words of Danielle Smith “balance is bunk, it’s all about juggling.” This is so true and sadly most of us realize it too late.

My dream was always to travel and write, but I was seduced by a high-power corporate career and took that path instead. Children were never on my radar, until they were BIG TIME and I was torn between career and family. But I was a feminist and had swallowed hook, line and sinker that women can now “have it all”.

So I tried. And I did for a while. But somehow having it all turned to doing it all. I made the meals, I grocery shopped, I was a room parent, I dropped off and picked up the kids from daycare and worried constantly how they were doing. I did this all while I was in the top 100 financial advisers out of over 6000 brokers in my Fortune 50 company. Oh boy, I had it all. Oh yes, I had a husband, but weren’t we taught that  as women could do everything?

I read all about work-life balance and I tried my best.  And it seemed to work… for everyone else. I would balance corporate mom with stay at home mom by doing all the laundry, errands,  shopping and cooking. I would balance my work time with being a room parent. I would balance my vacation time with playing with my kids on the beach when I really just wanted to take a nap, read a book or have a few minutes to myself. I was trying to balance my life with me as a mom and me as a career woman, but the me as a person wasn’t in the equation.

I was mentally and physically exhausted and my health declined. I easily became pregnant with my son at age thirty-three, but two years later I had a miscarriage and my fertility went right out the window. At age thirty-seven, I was losing a battle with fertility treatments and finally threw in the towel and we adopted our daughter in 2001.

Time did fly by. All the beautiful pictures and videos I had of my babies? I couldn’t watch them. They left me sobbing, aching for the time I missed and was continuing to miss. Feminism told me I could do whatever I wanted; I could be whoever I wanted. I could rule corporations and companies. Just get in there, work hard. Lean In. The top of the corporate ladder is where you want to be.

But they never told me what to do if I changed my mind. If I wanted to spend more time with my kids, I was someone who was not serious about her career. I needed to be someone who was serious about her career, right? So I stressed, and I cried and I hated myself for not having the guts to do what my heart wanted to do.

Until one day I did. One day I said no more. I always told my clients to live their life. Enjoy life. I decided to take my own advice. My husband and I dropped out of the corporate rat-race. It freaked everyone out.

We sold our house, we gave away our “stuff” physically and literally, bought a sailboat and took our kids on adventure. Co-workers didn’t truly believe it until my last day at work. My own mother gave me 30 days before I would come back. But we didn’t come back for over 4 years. We crossed oceans, climbed volcanoes, explored jungles and reconnected to each other. It was an incredible healing experience for me and my family.

When we came back, we were determined to hold on to what we found and implement the lessons we learned. The most important lesson is that if you don’t make taking care of yourself a priority, it’s hard to take care of anyone else. You know the sign on the airplane that says, “remember to put your own oxygen mask on before assisting others”?  I used to think that was crazy. Of course I would put the mask on my child first. But they are absolutely correct. You have to take care of yourself first before you help others. You have to be part of the equation.

So now my juggle consists of things I love… writing, traveling, family and helping others find the fun in their life. Helping them to find the “no”. I picked up a good mantra from Tiffany Romero at the Bloggy Bootcamp in Charlotte… don’t say yes unless it’s a hell yes. I’m going to embroider it on a pillow! Here’s to more “hell yes” in your life.

 

 

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One More Day

Normally I don’t write about commercials, but have you seen the new one by Mastercard? It’s called One More Day and it shows children asking their parents for one more day of vacation. One more day to make memories. 

While that alone is heartbreaking/inspiring, the shocking part to me is the statistics it quotes. But, before we get into details about vacation and workers in the US, let’s see why vacations are so important.

The following Infograph comes from Expedia.com

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OK, so here’s the deal. We have better sex lives when we travel, especially to new destinations. We are more satisfied with life when we travel and we like each other better. Unhappy with your job? Take a vacation. You’ll like your job more.  

But wait. People dislike their jobs and still aren’t taking vacations.

Here’s another shocking statistic, coming from an article written by Ben Steverman on paid vacations days.

http://www.bloomberg.com/news/2014-06-30/vacation-phobic-americans-donate-a-million-years-of-work-annually.html

According to Ben Steverman, 4 in 10 workers fail to take vacation days offered to them. He is talking about paid vacation. PAID VACATION PEOPLE! The company is paying you to go have fun! Americans leave an average of 8.1 days of vacation according to according to a 2014 Oxford Economics analysis. That’s 429 million unused vacation days per year.

What’s up with that? Why do statistics  prove that vacations make us feel better, but workers aren’t taking them even when they are paid? According to the article, Penn State University economic professor Lenn Golden says it has to do with job security in a cut-throat job market. 

Or maybe they just like accumulating days that they hope one day, they will be able to use. But that can backfire too. I know a few people who have accumulated paid vacation and paid sick days. One day they got the call their position was terminated. Bye bye vacation days. 

I personally have only worked commission only jobs. No paid vacations, no paid maternity leave. That was fine with me. It also meant to me that if the company wasn’t going to pay me to be there, I could come and go as I pleased, as long as I was making my numbers. Believe me, I took advantage of it. I follow the adage that you can always make money, you can’t make more time. So I took my time. 

You should too.

Take your time.

Take a vacation. You’ll be a better person!

 

 

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LUCK IS ALL AROUND US

Luck is all around us. Darren Hardy

In his book, The Compound Effect, author Darren Hardy tells us that luck is always around us. The key is knowing what to look for and seeing it as luck when we do find it. Too often we are envious of other peoples success. We use excuses why we aren’t as successful as they are, when if we told ourselves the truth, we would realize that their “luck” is really a result of hard work. 

Darren Hardy says that 

PREPARATION + ATTITUDE + OPPORTUNITY + ACTION = LUCK

These words must be part of your vocabulary. Preparation is obvious and opportunity is seeing a good thing coming your way, and then of course you must act. But to me, attitude is everything. Attitude is the belief, the mindset that you will be successful, you will be “lucky.”  

What is your belief about yourself today? If it’s not that you are always lucky, find a way to change it.

 

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