Listen To Your Heart

ListenSometimes the world gets so overwhelming, so hard.

Sometimes it sneaks up on you and everything you thought you knew, you built your foundation on, just crumbles.

You look around you and see that everyone else seems to get it,  but you. You can no longer see what they see. You can no longer think like they think. You can no longer buy into whatever the big illusion is that someone is trying to sell.

Instead of turning to the media, society, people you once thought had it all together, you start listening to a different voice.

You start listening to your heart. 

Your heart says:

Sit with me. Listen to me. I know you. I am your connection from God.

Life doesn’t have to be hard. Life doesn’t have to be full of fear. Life is not about keeping up with those around you. Life is about keeping up with your purpose. Your path.

Life is about fun. Life is about adventure. Life is about breathing in every moment, challenging yourself, throwing back your head in laughter, drinking deeply from the cup of life’s experience.

Life is love. Only you know how you want to be loved.

Sit with your heart today. What is it telling you?

 

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DO YOU SPEND YOUR TIME OR DO YOU LIVE YOUR TIME?

Sunset Maho Bay USVI

Sunset Maho Bay USVI

In November of this year, the world (well people who like these kind of things) was intrigued to hear a new comet was coming close to the sun, the Comet ISON. Unfortunately it seems the comet flew too close to the sun (hmm, I think we have heard that one before) and burned up or melted.

The comet took me back to a memory I had as a child; a memory that I couldn’t understand then and had put away in my mind until I was ready to understand its meaning.

The time was some time in the early 1970s and I was a young girl. I was riding in the car with my mom. It was just her and I, my five other sisters and one brother were at school, and this was a rare moment I had my mom to herself (and an even rarer moment for my mom not to be surrounded by 7 kids). She was driving us back from somewhere, I can’t remember where now. On the radio they were talking about Haley’s comet and how astronomers expected it to approach earth in 1986. I was always intrigued by the stars, but a comet? How cool would that be?

I said to my mom, “I can’t wait until 1986, so I can see the comet!”

She paused for a moment, then said, “Don’t wish your life away. Time goes too fast the way it is.”

I was confused. This was a big event. “But that’s when the comet will be here. I wish it was 1986 now!”

She replied, and I will always remember the tone in her voice, “No, honey. Time goes too fast.”

At that time I couldn’t comprehend what she was saying. As a child, it seems to take forever for you to grow up. Your twenties seem to pass a bit quicker, but once you have children and can actually measure the passing of time by seeing how much bigger they are getting, time passes very quickly. 

My Mom was in her 40’s when we had that conversation, and the reason I believe it stuck in my head is not so much what she said, but the feeling behind it. She sounded sad. She sounded like a woman who had so much in her life that she had wanted to do, and she didn’t get to do it. 

Albert Einstein proved time is relative. The past, present and future exist in the same moment. Time is only important in how it relates to you. In that moment with my mom, I saw my whole life ahead of me and I was anxious to get to it; my mom felt her best years were slipping away. 

I remember another instance in my own life. I was 43 years old, probably the same age as my mom was when we had that conversation. I had a 6 year old and a 9 year old and I was depressed. I felt that time was flying by, and my beautiful babies were getting too old, too soon.  I had a great job in the corporate world, something I always wanted to do, but it broke my heart every day to leave them. Looking at my kids’ baby picture would bring me to tears. Where had the time gone? I would never get that time back.  

My husband had the crazy idea that we could quit our jobs and take the kids sailing for a year or two. It seemed impossibly crazy. Give my career up? A career I had worked so hard on? But the more I thought about it, the better it sounded. In the end I listened to my heart, and we embarked on a four year adventure. We took back our time and it was so healing for the entire family.

Since we’ve been back, time is a priority in my life. I don’t hoard it though, or stress over time passing; I LIVE IT.

Fully.

OUT LOUD.

My motto is Never Trade Time For Money

You can always make money, you can’t make more time. 

I try to adhere to this everyday and really focus on doing the things I love, doing a job I love, being with people I love. I try to save my “Yeses” for “Hell Yeses”. I don’t succeed every time, but I try very hard.

But I don’t do it out of fear that I will run out of time. I do it because there is so much in life I want to do. I want to fill every second of my life with what is important to me. In the end, I don’t want any regrets. On their deathbed, no one wishes they had spent more time at work. 

How do you spend your time?

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SOMETIMES IT’S BETTER NOT TO LOOK AT THE BIG PICTURE

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You know you want to do something different with your life, something bold, but you don’t know how to get started. The world seems so big and scary outside your comfort zone. You are bombarded with “what ifs?” before you even get started. What if I make a mistake? What if three years from now I find out this was a bad idea? What if I never make any money?

How do you find the courage to keep going? How do you make that first step now, when you are paralyzed with worry about obstacles down the road that you can’t even see?  

Stop looking at the big picture. Start focusing on the small view in front of you.

Last summer my family and I boarded a cruise ship for a Caribbean cruise.  While this was the first time for us all to be on a cruise ship together, it wasn’t the first time we had cruised these waters together as a family. From 2007 to 2011, we sailed different parts of the Caribbean on our own sailboat Alegria.  We encountered rough seas, long night passages, but nothing very scary. The ocean always seemed a bit small and cozy from the cockpit of our 38-foot catamaran.

But as we stood on the deck of the cruise ship, and looked at the vastness of the ocean, we were taken aback. The ocean was huge. It was easy to get lost. There was nothing out there. When we stood on cruise ship deck at night it was even more apparent. We couldn’t see anything.  The darkness seemed overwhelming. If there were any other boats out there, especially a 38-foot sailboat like ours, we wouldn’t see them. How had we ever made it across in our tiny boat?

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“Mom, What Do You Want To Be When You Grow Up?”

 

Girl Talk on Alegria

Girl Talk on Alegria

“Mom” my seven-year-daughter asked looking at me earnestly. “What do you want to be when you grow up?”

We were sitting on the back of our catamaran Alegria, enjoying the warm sunshine and the crystal clear ocean below us. It was our favorite place for mother-daughter conversations. We had been living on our sailboat for over a year at the time, and we were now deep in the Caribbean. I had quit my Senior VP position at a financial institution right before we left on this trip. Tessa knew I had a career; she had been to my office many, many, times.

At first I thought she was being sassy, or making a joke, but the look on her face told me this was a question she was sincerely contemplating. I was confused and not sure how to answer at first. Then I was flattered. My husband and I work hard to teach our children that anything in life is possible. If you want something, go out and get it. Here I was, in my 40’s, and my daughter saw me not in the closing down of career options but as everything being wide open. She had learned well.

Truth is, at that point, I didn’t know what I wanted to do. That was part of the reason we were on this trip and for me a spiritual journey. I needed to find myself. I know that sounds cliché, but it was true. I spent so many years doing what others thought I should be doing, and doing it well, that I wasn’t sure if I even knew what I wanted to be when I “grew up”.  I only knew how I wanted to feel. I wanted to feel free. Free to make my own choices.

I smiled at Tessa and said, “You know what? It’s too soon to tell. I don’t want to lock myself into anything just yet. There’s so much out there. I’ve got some time. How about you?”

She shook her brown curls. “I don’t know.”

I put my arm around her, gave her a hug and assured her, “Well, I guess we’ll both just figure it out when we get there, huh?”

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